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does age matter…young or old…..

December 11, 2016 | by joywirta

Many of us, not all, but I can guarantee some individuals when we are going through the Sunday paper and are checking out the obituaries, to see if anyone we know may have passed away recently. I find that we often ask “How old were they?” like it makes a difference…. Does it? When a loved one dies, does it matter how old they were, do you find that you have more compassion if the individual was younger of age or a child? What about a child lost in the womb, do you think that those parents do not suffer as much as a child lost in later years? If a grandparent dies in their sleep later on in years and had a great life, do you think that the family does not grieve as great? I often hear comments in passing, from associates or just in general and often find myself biting my tongue, honestly! Life sucks regardless when you have lost a family member or close friend, regardless of faith or age. Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” ~ Mark Twain …..I love that quote, and is so true. It is like dating right? When someone is dating and there are years of difference, people tend to judge, regardless of their journey to get there, “Love Conquers” is what is said in relationships, so would it not develop the same thought in death? The person that is grieving loved the person to no end, regardless of age, so maybe we should remember grief is the same in and out, regardless . There are so many support groups for parents that may have lost a little one in the womb or stillbirth, children of all ages, and for the loss of a spouse, or parent, the list is endless, you just have to know where to start and look. Using your resources within your own community such as your physician is a great way to start the process if you need extra support.” It takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, and a day to love them, but it takes an entire lifetime to forget them”. —Anonymous ……. Till next time……….


Joy Wirta

Owner of Dragonfly

Joy Wirta is a lifetime resident of the Sudbury Area, where she was born and raised her family. She has been involved as a volunteer for over 20 years serving on many committees and boards across the region.

Employed with over a decade of service with Canada Revenue Agency, she holds to great value confidentiality and privacy.

After dealing with personal losses herself, she recognized a need for a support program within our community to deal with the affairs after a family has said their final goodbyes.